By David DeAngelo

This time I'm going to “mix it up” a little...

I get a lot of questions like the three thatyou're about to read.

A LOT of them.

In fact, I get so many HUNDREDS AND HUNDREDSof them emailed to me that I'm beginning torealize that I need to write another newsletterabout this particular topic... even though I'vewritten about ten billion of them now.

Read these emails... and nod your head if you'vefound yourself in a similar situation:

***QUESTION #1***

Dave-

I've been receiving your newsletters and althoughI'm a little skeptical, I thought I'd ask you aquestion. I live in Las Vegas where I attend UNLV(I'm in a fraternity), play in a kick-ass rockband, AND work as a bouncer in a nightclub on theStrip. Now, given my situation, one would thinkthat I'm just ROLLING in women, yet the only gameI get is from older chicks and gay dudes. Andwhen I do go out with hotties, I can't get themto call me back; girls my age just aren'tattracted to me like they used to be. I'm smart,funny, I make decent cash, drive a nice car andall my "friend-girls" constantly tell me howhot I am. What the hell am I doing wrong?

Sincerely,
A.P.

***QUESTION #2***

I recently had surgery and during that time afemale "surgical consultant" gave me guidelinesof what the surgery would be like and how toprepare for it. In a nutshell, she was reallyhot. The problem is we have talked on the phoneabout the surgery and the results and financeswith insurance. The problem is that it's onlybeen on a professional level. She is fairlyfriendly, she doesn't avoid my calls, and shedoesn't try to get off the phone quickly.

So I had her business card and I recently wroteher an email , to her WORK email address, onFriday and said thanks for all the help andasked her out for coffee and she emailed me backright away and said that "I am too nice" andtotally avoided answering the "coffee" date. SoI emailed her back that same Friday and saidthat "you totally avoided the coffee question."Today's Monday and she since hasn't replied tomy email about going out for coffee. I feel likewriting her back instead of waiting for herreply. Is this a sign that she is not interestedin me? What do I do? How do I get her to atleast go out for coffee with me. If she does goout for coffee with me, how do I keep herinterested in me? You are my last resort foradvice. If your advice works, then I amdefinitely going to buy your programs. Pleasehelp!

A.S.
Los Angeles

***QUESTION #3***

I am recently divorced and am 32 years old.Haven't dated since I was 21. So I have justkind of thrown myself back out there. A friendof mine told me about you and this newsletterso I started reading it and am fascinated byyour advice. I have always been the nice guy-ready with an honest compliment and holding thedoor etc. Its not an act - its just how I am.

But I seem to be sensing a problem with this...

With my friends and gal pals I get the "you'retoo nice" comment all the time. I am stilltrying to figure out how you can be too nice.How can you be too much of a gentleman? Isthis truly something that can kind of trip youup dating these days, if you are like me?

Thanks

DK - Denver, Colorado

>>>MY COMMENTS:

It's interesting for me to read questions likethese.

The FIRST thing that pops into my mind when Isee a question like this one is:

“He doesn't get it.”

That's it.

He doesn't get it.

Now, I guess it's probably obvious that a guywho writes me “doesn't get” SOMETHING.

If he did, he wouldn't write in for help.

I know, I know. I'm a logical genius.

Shut up.

But stay with me here...

The three guys who wrote in above all haveVERY different situations.

But I really believe that they all have thesame basic PROBLEM.

They're running up against totally differentchallenges, but I believe that if they allunderstood a few keys about women andATTRACTION, everything would change for EACHof them.

So let's talk about those key things.

Here are a few of my key ideas:

1) ATTRACTION Isn't A Choice.

2) Women don't feel ATTRACTION for “nice”guys who kiss up to them.

3) If you don't GET how ATTRACTION works, thenit almost doesn't matter WHAT you do. Nothingwill work.

4) If you DO get how ATTRACTION works, thenyou can do almost ANYTHING, and it will workfor you.

Let's take 'em one at a time...

ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE

Women don't “choose” to feel ATTRACTION.

BANG! It just happens.

And let me ask you something.

Do you think that the mechanism that causeswomen to feel ATTRACTION... the one thathas evolved over millions of years... beforelanguage, before MTV, before you learned howto kiss women's asses... is LOGICAL?

ere's a hint:

No.

The bottom line is that if you interact witha woman long enough that she forms an“impression” of you, and she doesn't “feelit” for you, then you're done.

It's over.

And no amount of chasing her around, buyingher things, and being “nice” is going to dothe trick.

It's NOT a CHOICE, man!

WOMEN DON'T FEEL ATTRACTION FOR“NICE” GUYS WHO KISS UP TO THEM

Remember the guy above who asked the question“How can you be too nice?”.

Answer:

You already know... DUH.

Now I'm going to ask YOU a question...

WHY are you BEING nice in the FIRST place?

Right, right.

It's because you WANT something.

“Oh, no”, you argue...

“It's because I'm a NICE GUY.”

Or maybe you think that you were born thisway... to be “nice”.

Or maybe you've even convinced yourself thatit's the “right” thing to do.

Well, it's really pretty funny that theanswer is staring you right in the face.

You keep proving to yourself over and overand OVER again that NICE DOESN'T WORK.

By the way, I love it when guys write into me and say “I don't want to use the thingsyou teach because I don't like the idea ofMANIPULATING women”.

Then I ask “Do you buy women dinner, or takethem out?”.

Of course, the answer is always “Yes”.

I ask “Why?”.

But I already know the answer...

IT'S TO MANIPULATE WOMEN.

Yep. And then the same guy says “Yea, butTHAT'S DIFFERENT”.

OK, before I get too far off track here,let's just summarize and say that it isEASY to be "“too nice”.

And it REALLY screws up your chances withwomen when you are.

Women are NEVER attracted to WUSSIES.

“Overly nice” equals “Wussy”.

Remember that.

IF YOU DON'T “GET” HOW ATTRACTIONWORKS, THEN IT DOESN'T MATTER WHATYOU DO. NOTHING WILL WORK.

Think about the concept of ATTRACTIONfor a moment.

What is it?

Is it important?

Is it the same for men and women?

Do you KNOW how it works for women?

Have you ever taken the time to LEARNhow it works for women?

Have you ever CARED how it works for women?

Are you guilty of spending more time thinkingabout what you're going to leave on youroutgoing voicemail message than thinkingabout this topic?

Well, let's get something straight...

MOST men, and I'm talking about 95% of them,have NO IDEA how or why women feel thatamazing emotion called ATTRACTION for somemen.

And if they DO have an idea, it's usuallyDEAD WRONG.

All most guys know is that women don't feelATTRACTION for THEM.

It's obvious that our three poster childrenabove haven't a clue about how and why womenfeel ATTRACTION.

Read their emails again right now.

You'll get what I'm talking about.

Notice something about these emails.

Notice that they all seem to be focusing onwhat they're DOING, rather than what theyKNOW.

“I'm in a rock band and I'm a bouncer at ahot club... but that doesn't work...”

“I sent her an email, but that didn'twork...”

“I'm a nice guy, but that doesn't work...”

Can you see it?

THEY DON'T GET IT.

If they did, their emails would be totallydifferent.

IF YOU DO GET HOW ATTRACTION WORKSTHEN ALMOST ANYTHING WILL WORK...

Here's the interesting part of all of this.

If you will take the time to LEARN how andwhy women feel that interesting and magicalemotional response called ATTRACTION forsome rare men, and not for ALL THE OTHERmen running around, then EVERYTHING changes.

Here are a few interesting points...

There are a few physical cues, or specifictypes of “body language” that instantlytell a woman whether or not you're a guythat is even worth a SECOND GLANCE...

If you don't know what these things are,and how to use them, then the game will beover before it has even started.

Scary.

Women test men CONSTANTLY.

And ATTRACTIVE women test men MUCH MOREINTENSELY than “regular” women.

If you don't know how to spot these tests(and most of them are very subtle), and then deal with them, you're going to loseyour chance to create ATTRACTION before youeven GET it.

Being “nice” isn't the way.

If you want to chase a woman around for sixmonths, buy her tons of gifts, take her ona bunch of expensive dates, and HOPE for achance to have her as your girlfriend, thenkeep doing what you've always done.

This is the PRIMARY way that men approachthe topic of “women and dating”.

I'd say that, on average, if you're REALLYREALLY NICE, and you buy her lots ofextra-nice stuff, and take a woman on atleast 20 dates over a 3-month time period,that you'll have about a 10% chance of her“falling for you”.

That's just a guess.

But it's probably pretty accurate.

On the OTHER hand, if you want to be thekind of guy that has women FLIRTING withyou within MINUTES of talking to them,then you're going to need to do somethingelse ENTIRELY.

And if you want to be the kind of guy thatactually has so many options, so many dates,and so many women interested in him thatyou just can't take all their calls, thenyou're going to need a COMPLETE OVERHALLin your thinking, behavior, and perspective.

Yes, it can be done, but “nice” isn't theway to do it.

Here's the irony:

Women DON'T WANT WUSSIES!

No no no!

Women are looking for MEN.

You know, a MAN?

I have a theory...

I think so many women are turning intolesbians because even WOMEN have more ballsthese days than most men.

You probably think I'm joking...

OK, so what should us guys do to:

1) Stop being “too nice”...

2) Learn how ATTRACTION works for women...

3) Meet and date more women successfully...

NOW THOSE are some GREAT questions!

Step 1 is to OPEN YOUR MIND to a new way ofseeing things.

I watched guy who were REALLY successful withwomen for a LONG TIME... with my OWN TWOEYES... before I started to actually SEEwhat was going on.

And at first it just plain didn't make senseAT ALL.

But once I began to understand it, everythingcame together in a “blinding flash of theobvious”.

Next, you need to realize that “nice” andATTRACTION are two different things.

And they're NOT related.

Finally, you need to GET AN EDUCATION aboutthis topic.

It amazes me that a man will go to college,spend a hundred grand OR MORE, and feelsatisfied walking out of that educationalexperience STILL not having learned how tobe successful with women.

Amazing.

It amazes me EVEN MORE that guys don't makethe decision to actually LEARN this stuff.

Blows my mind.

Now, I've spent OVER five years working on thisparticular topic.

It took me a good 2+ years just to BEGIN toget a handle on what was going on.

It took me another year or so, AFTER I startedto understand, to actually get GOOD.

After all that, I spent quite a bit of timewriting notes to myself, discussing thetechniques that I've learned and created, andputting it all together.

What's the result?

Well, now I have several great programs thatI've designed to help teach guys how to meetand date women successfully.

And my stuff doesn't just focus on “what” todo. It ALSO focuses on THE WHY, and the WHEN,and the HOW.

In my eBook, “Double Your Dating”, I spend several dozen pages on this topic of ATTRACTION... how it developed, how it works, and how to understand it.

I get TONS of email from guys who say “Wow,this really opened my eyes and gave me atotally new perspective... and THAT is thething that has made the difference”.

Of course, I also teach DOZENS of amazingtechniques for everything from approachingwomen to getting numbers to taking things toa “physical” level.

The eBook is a complete education. Checkit out here:

When you follow that link, you'll also be ableto sign up for my FREE Dating Tips Newsletter...which is packed with even more great secrets.

I recommend that you take advantage of theseresources.

I've put a lot of time, effort, and energy intothem, and this is the first time in HISTORY thatsomething quite like this has been available.

Go check them out.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

David DeAngelo is the author of “Double Your Dating - What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women”, and has taught thousands of men how to be more successful with women and dating.